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To 50 and Beyond


Jul 30, 2020

Episode 127
 
In this episode, I talk with Paula Fontenelle, therapist, author, podcaster and a woman who lost her father to suicide in 2005. 
Paula shares her story of loss, recovery and covers topics that will help you break the silence and stigma of suicide. 
 
Topics include: 
  • Paula’s story of losing her father in 2005 who died by suicide 
  • Paula's relationship with her father before he died 
  • Paula’s recovery and how she felt after her father died 
  • Paula being diagnosed with depression after her father’s death
  • Experiencing “what if’s” after someone you love dies by suicide
  • Dealing with feelings of guilt and grieve after someone you love dies by suicide
  • Paula’s work talking to people who attempted suicide and who lost people they love to suicide
  • The need for this conversation and Paula’s mission of breaking the silence of suicide 
  • Debunking the myths and misconceptions of suicide including: talking about suicide putting the idea in someones head, the language when talking and writing about suicide, people “just talk about it” and they won’t really do it, people don’t want to die, they want to end the pain they are going through, and for the person who dies by suicide being selfish is not true.
  • Misleading information between men and women attempting suicide and dying by suicide 
  • The warning signs of someone who is contemplating suicide
  • How to talk to someone and what you should say and not say
  • Talking to someone is 95% of the reason why people change their mind about suicide
  • Suicide is related to personal crisis and mental health 54% is not related to mental illness 
  • How can you ask about it simply
  • The language around suicide including the Red Flag language
  • The continuum of suicide 
  • Depression and suicide and warning signs in youth 
  • Social media and bullying for our youth

Paula Fontenelle is a Brazilian journalist who decided to change careers after the death of her father to suicide, in 2005. Since then, she has finished a training in Psychoanalysis, in Brazil, and a Masters in Clinical Mental Health, in Portland/OR. Today she works as a therapist at Life Counseling, in McMinnville, Oregon. As part of what she considers her mission, she hosts a podcast and a YouTube Channel called Understand Suicide, which has listeners from over sixty countries. She is the author of the book Understanding Suicide: Living with loss, paths to prevention (finalist of the Brazilian Book Award).

 

To find Paula: 

Understand Suicide website 

Understand Suicide Podcast 

Understanding Suicide: Living With Loss. Paths to Prevention. 

 

To find Lori: 

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