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Feb 4, 2020

Episode 102

Un-Becoming Codependent

In this episode, I talk with Stephanie Curtis about what it was like to marry young, leave the marriage, and marry again to an alcoholic husband. 

Stephanie recounts her days in a marriage where Budweiser was the mistress, and how she made the decision to leave the marriage and work on her own recovery from codependency. 

For years Stephanie fought desperately to save her husband, her family, and herself from the overwhelming destructive power of alcoholism, addiction, and abuse. Ultimately, she realized that in her attempts to lift him up, she was burying herself. The only way to find peace and protect her family was to redefine them completely. Now, as a single mom of two, she chips away at the armor she welded on over the years as protection. And hopes her story provides light to those cowering in the darkness of addiction - both the alcoholics and the unseen heroes - the spouses.

Topics include: 

  • Abusive Relationships 
  • Getting married at twenty 
  • Having an affair in her first marriage 
  • Running away from the relationship because she couldn’t take the abuse
  • Moving in with someone else quickly after leaving her first marriage
  • Married a man who was an alcoholic - Mr. B. 
  • Seeking help + self-reflection + recovery 
  • Finding help on Instagram through hashtags 
  • Justifying the relationship with her alcoholic husband 
  • Her husband’s behavior when drinking beer 
  • Why you don’t “just” leave an abusive relationship with an alcoholic 
  • Trying to get her husband to recover instead of her own recovery 
  • Telling her husband to leave the home finally in 2018 
  • Surrendering as a codependent
  • Having the confidence to own who you are 
  • Narrowing your circle  - Quality over Quantity as an adult
  • Fitting In vs. Belonging
  • Finding Love again on IG

To find Stephanie: 

IG: @unbecoming.mrs.b

Podcast: @theresabrightside - releasing on March 1, 2020


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